While in Italy, I had some time to reflect on the relationship with my stepdaughter.
I realised that to a certain extent I was being very negative and dismissive when she was proposing something.
This reminded of how my parents react every time I bring up an idea or something new.
I didn’t want her to feel unsupported or afraid of speaking her mind, so I decided to open up and talk with her.
It was a really beautiful moment and we both struggled to stop the tears.
I tried to be as honest as possible with her.
I confessed that unconsciously I haven’t considered her my daughter 100%.
I explained that this is not the way I feel now.
I added that I feel very happy to be her stepfather and very proud of who she is.
I can see her now through her clumsiness and insecurities and I hope I am able to be of comfort and support to her from now on and in the future.
I realised it’s very important for a child to feel she has the support of her family and I want to make sure that things stay that way, at least as far as what I can control.